“Unsure Where To Start? Your 6 Step Guide to Anal Play”

Commonly referred to as the holy grail of sex, anal play is no longer the taboo or off-limits subject it once was. The veil of stigma is finally beginning to lift, allowing this sensual form of playtime to be celebrated for the naughty treat it truly is.
Healthy relationships are built upon strong foundations of healthy communication and openness between each partner. They key to developing a strong connection is to be able to explore together while allowing each other’s boundaries to truly be respected.
Anal can become a really enjoyable part of that journey!

So—why try anal in the first place?

Anal sex is enjoyable for both sexes in different ways. For men, anal play is all about the ‘P-spot’ which is the prostate. For women, the commonly known G-spot can be stimulated through anal sex and foreplay. Though women don’t have a P-spot, anal sex can still be incredibly enjoyable and lead to multiple orgasms also.
If you’re in the position of being the ‘giver’ then the tightness around the shaft can be incredibly stimulating for a man. Plus, the very fact that you have an ‘access all areas’ pass from your partner can be a kinky feeling in itself.
What’s not to love! As long as both of you are comfortable and willing to participate, then there is a huge amount of fun and pleasure to be discovered together. Just ensure you’re both on the same page and that you’re both okay to stop as soon as the other might want to.

What are the myths and are they true?

MYTH #1 : It hurts…
Anal sex doesn’t (and shouldn’t hurt you) if it’s done right and with the right accessories (such as lube) to help you. Take your time to adjust to the sensation and go slowly at first to find your rhythm together.
MYTH #2 : It’s dirty…
The truth is, the anal passage is a passage, not a storage area. It is very possibly to keep yourselves clean during anal and to enjoy this form of sex without it being ‘dirty’ in the hygienic sense of the word. Just don’t switch from anal to vaginal sex to avoid potential infection.
MYTH #3 : It will damage the body…
If you don’t use sufficient lubrication in any form of sex, then you risk potential perforation and discomfort. Whether you have anal or vaginal sex, you need to ensure you are lubed up to both enjoy it and to stay safe.
MYTH #4 : It will stretch you permanently…
Your back passage can accommodate a range of sizes, as long as there is enough lubricant and cautions are taken not to rush the entrance.

How do I prepare for anal?

Even if you’re excited to get started, don’t just dive off into the deep end without getting ready first. Otherwise you could risk having a bad experience and being put off doing it again, which would be a real shame when there is so much fun to be had!
You can use an anal douche which will effectively ‘clear and clean’ the area. Once the water runs clear, you’re good to go!
Depending on if you’ve both been recently checked for STI’s or if you’re regular and exclusive, you may also want to stock up on condoms. Some people prefer the hygiene element that condoms offer also.
Lube is the golden element of all sex, but especially anal. You can be generous with how much you use - the more the better in this case. There are even some specially designed lubes that are made for anal that you can try.

How should we start?

Warm-ups aren’t just for the gym, you know! Use some foreplay, lubricant and even some small toys to get you and your partner excited and ready for anal. Use a little of the lube to gently massage the opening of the anus, stimulating those nerves as you do so.
Why not try a discreet butt plug or some anal beads to start things off? Insert them gently while communicating with your partner to see what feels good and when it might be a little intense in order to back off a little.
Anilingus (rimming or anal oral sex) is also a great way to gently approach the area while enjoying some sensual stimulation that you can both enjoy being a part of.

What positions will work?

Missionary with pillows under the butt, doggy style, rear entry with an arched back, cowgirl, and spooning are all popular poses for anal sex fun! Work out the best way to access the clitoris if as females partner is involved, too.
Use your imagination and have fun! Don’t forget that anal sex is a form of erotic play just like any other, so try and relax and don’t worry about if you’re doing it right or wrong.

What else do I need to know?

The key to enjoying anal sex, is to take your time and follow your intuition. If something feels good, do more of it. If something feels strange or uncomfortable in a negative way then take a moment to pause or change position.
Don’t rush into trying every position listed in this article. There’s no need to rush just because a friend or partner has told you about how great something is. Everyone enjoys sexual endeavours differently, and that’s normal!

What about afterwards?

After playtime is over, head to the bathroom for a quick wash or wipe down. This is both for hygiene and comfort reasons and you’ll feel a lot better for doing so.
Then, spend time talking to your partner about what you enjoyed about what you’ve just shared together. Learn from each other to improve things for next time!
You might feel a little ‘strange’ back there afterwards. As long as there is no ongoing pain or bleeding then don’t worry. If there is, head to a medical centre to get checked out.
Now—go and grab the toys and tools you need to enjoy some seriously sexy anal play!